I bet Carlo's mom lived in a community where someone was coming in occasionally to hold the baby so she could go to the bathroom.

I think it's good to be reminded that raising small children in isolation is possible if you call on God, but it's wrong to set up the experience of modern isolated family as normative. We are not under monastic vows, we're raising children in horrifically difficult circumstances, and men telling us to offer it up can stick in their ear.