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[mommydama]

I need comments.

I've never been so needy in the comment department before. I haven't been commenting enough on other's blogs, I know. It is definately a reciprocal thing here in LJ world. Which makes sense...I'm just feeling comment needy today.

So...in order to generate a discussion as I seem to be desperately in need of one, ask me a question. Be anonymous if need be. I'll do my best to answer it.

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[pikefish.livejournal.com]

will you tell me a little about your ttc journey-- I really haven't had time to read that far back in your journal but I'd love to know more about it and the adoption process, where all the girls are from, their histories, etc

[mommydama.livejournal.com]

We started ttc about two years into our marriage. We tried for about four years, and then just stopped. We were getting into drugs and doctors were talking about in vitro and stuff and we just didn't want to go there. For religious and other reasons. All that had been discovered was that I didn't ovulate regularly. No one was ever able to find any other issues. But honestly, we didn't push that hard. We just weren't that set on being parents that way. I had told my husband before we were even married that I wanted to adopt someday, regardless of whether or not we had bio kids. When it didn't look like it was going to happen easily or naturally, we decided to pursue adoption.

I started to write the adoption stories at one point. They are in my memories, under "Important" I think. I'll have to look again. Basically, once we decided to adopt the ball got going FAST. We were discussing whether or not to do domestic or international and I was suddenly given the opportunity to go on a mission trip to an orphanage in Guatemala. By the time I came home, I was sure this was our answer. We started the process and sat back to wait. While we were waiting we were called out of the blue by our priest and told about an opportunity to adopt an infant. We said yes and two weeks from that phone call, Zoe was in our arms. We didn't give up on Guatemala, and continued to wait. Then we got a call from a bio relative of Zoe's telling us another person in the their family needed to place a child and since we were already family, were we intereste? We said yes. 13 mos after Zoe's birth, Luci joined our family. Then, two month later we finally got to go pick up Maria from Guatemala. She was 27 mos old when we brought her home.

That is it in a nutshell. I'd be happy to answer any other questions that don't go too far into the girl's privacy. I love talking about it. And you are welcome to read what I've written in the memories.

[pikefish.livejournal.com]

wow--- goosebumps!!!

I can relate with the ttc--- I did the temp charts and never was able to get the definite spike or whatever comes with ovulation--- it was a gradual increase.

Do you still have contact with Zoe and Luci's family? was it an open adoption? I am very sad in our society, we have so many unwanted children (or unable to be cared for children) but am glad that those 2 found you and that their family knew that they couldn't take care of them. I see a lot of children with parents who really don't take care of them the way they should or love them the way they should.

I have a nephew who was adopted from Guatemala--- long time ago as he is in junior high (high school???) now. his hair was awful :) it used to stick up all over his head and his dad called him coconut hair baby. he had some troubles in lower elementary grades but is doing great now.

my niece was also adopted from Russia after her 1st b-day (she was 4 in Nov). I love hearing about adoption as I also was adopted (I think I told you that maybe one time). I met my birth mother and was able to complete my puzzle and find my place in this world in relation to family. I look so forward to watching your kids grow and seeing what questions they ask regarding this and what your answers will be :)